I live life always wanting to do more, make more, create more – never satisfied completely. Balancing that with not allowing myself to be unhappy is an interesting line to walk along.
Do you take time to reflect on your life as it is right at this moment? Take a moment, right now as you read this, to stop and reflect. This doesn’t have to be a very big event, it is not something you have to put on your to do list or daily schedule, just take a moment and look at your life as it is right now.
When you start planning, setting goals, working to create a future this should be your very first step. Stop and look at where you are. You should follow this up with a semi-regular ‘reality’ check. Are you making progress to your goals? Are you progressing towards what you want?
While you are doing the ‘reality’ check, also take time to appreciate what you have and where you are! Do you do this part of the step?
I know at times I forget this very important step. Luckily for me, I have the love of my life who points this out to me which is the push I need to remember to appreciate what I do have as I work for the future. If you cannot do this for yourself, get someone who can help you with it. It could be your partner, your life-mate, your spouse anyone you can put that level of trust in and that you can and will listen to.
If you spend all your time focused on the future, on achieving the next step, you will burn out as the future never arrives. If you, like me, are constantly setting out the next milestone to be achieved, but not taking a moment to savor having achieved the one you are at, it will not give you the longevity or the ability to achieve your goals.
As I write this morning, I am doing the following steps; I recommend them for you as well.
- Look around you – look and see exactly where you are and what you have right at this moment, all within your sight.
I see my youngest daughter watching one of her favorite musical shows on television that I own and pay for so she and my other children can be entertained. She is singing along and dancing in the cutest way any proud father would brag about. (She is 14 months as of this writing.) She stops to smile at me and blow kisses. I am sitting in our nice, warm house, in a very nice neighborhood, all our bills are paid, and my kids are all in school and doing well. We are all healthy, I am writing on my laptop. In short, life is very good; we have all we need and more.
- Give a moment of thought to how your actions today will bring your projected future closer.
I have a meeting with a new client today. Our retail has a lot of necessary actions today, all of which will continue improving its success. I will be working on a new marketing campaign. I will be making a donation today to my Church. I will have the opportunity today to network and meet even more new people who I may be able to help improve their lives. All of this adding to the ultimate success I have planned out. I will be proofing the books for my business coaching workshops and by the end of the day I will have put more money in to my bank accounts.
- Realize the support you have around you, conditional and unconditional.
I mean by this, realize those around you who support you, love you, work for you, or are like minded people to you. Those who are or will help you achieve your goals. My family loves me unconditionally. I have a wonderful woman who loves me despite my faults. I have employees who work for me but also to improve them through the work we are doing. I have business partners together whom we are like minded in our goals.
- Decide you can be happy right now, while still wanting more and better.
Simple isn’t it? That is the power of a decision though. In your own mind, the world you create within you and project out around you it is that easy. This is what we refer to as your attitude, or your inner self. Decide you can be happy. Decide your life is good and only getting better. As I do this, for myself, I find a warm feeling fills me and I am ready to go face the day. There will be challenges, there will be random unexpected happenings, but I am ready for them and I will overcome any challenges.
Do these steps for yourself and let me know your results!